All sex, no feels.

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Today, people want what they want — and they want it fast. The desire to quickly outrun feelings of loneliness often makes singles rush into relationships. Whether they’re built to last is a different story.

Overlooking the things I’m about to share with you may lead you into a situation(ship) that is heavy on the sex; light on the substance. I don’t want that for you! Since you’re here, I’m going to assume you don’t want that for yourself either; so here are five reasons why he or she may not be meeting your emotional needs. …


A guide for serial daters who are ready to get out the game.

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When I get old, I’ll be able to look back at my early 20’s and say “I dated a lot.” I’d be able to recall both pleasant and not-so-pleasant memories of dating as an old-soul millennial, which I see as a blessing.

The blessing lays in the information. If you’re someone who’s dating frequently, but also ready to connect and build something more intimate with a serious partner, dating is your data.

We date to learn what we’re attracted to, what we’re not willing to tolerate, what we need, and how we want to fulfill other’s needs.

Collectively and with…


We see right through you.

Just like countless other white women in history, you’re center of privilege has rendered you blind to experiences that don’t look, feel, or sound like your own.

Yet, I don’t believe your privilege is thick enough to make you as ignorant as you would like each of us to believe.

Partially because your shady $20 million insider trading sell of stocks that were vulnerable to the imminent Covid-19 crash — the day you were briefed — displays your ability to interpret facts and use them to your personal gain; and partially because after nearly 50…


Decisions are empowered when you’re clear on why you’re making them. Get clear on your values, and box out anything that works against your mission.

Values are like a compass, or a map. Perhaps a GPS. The road is life, and values align you with the direction of your journey. Without them, we’d all be lost, and frankly unfulfilled. Clarifying your values is a fundamental step in designing and living the life that you personally desire. Get clear on them here.

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Values aren’t selected; they’re discovered. We don’t choose our values. Our values reveal themselves to us. — Scott Jeffrey

Personal values are a set of truths that you embody to make meaning in life. …


Consideration for the system in charge of our survival responses.

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Your brain is a 3-lb powerhouse. During times of crisis, the deliberate use of this small, yet complex system is what will fortify your mind, sustain your health, and protect your well-being.

The limbic system is perhaps the most important part of ourselves to tend to in the midst of current world events. Located in the middle of the brain, the amygdala, hippocampus, mamillary bodies, hypothalamus, thalamus, and cingulate gyrus each make up the limbic system.

If you’re extra curious about how each of these complex structures link and support…


During high-stress times, how you speak to yourself matters.

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Those who have had the pleasure of practicing daily affirmations know how powerful they can be. When practiced consistently, the use of intentional language can calm the mind, reshape counter-productive thoughts, and establish constructive patterns. Before sharing a list of 20 powerful affirmations, let’s take a moment to understand how we process them.

We know that the brain acts as our main control center. Yet, we often overlook the fact that our brains drift between two modes: one conscious, the other unconscious or subconscious.

The latter mode is where action and…


Do we love the act of living, or do we hate the idea of death?

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We are living in unprecedented times.

The world is now more interconnected than ever, which makes today a particularly challenging time to separate one’s own cocktail of thoughts and emotions from external, often competing forces.

Turn on the TV; your local news outlet has an urgent message for you. Click to another channel, and you may witness national news promote a conflicting view. If you’re fortunate enough to do so, pick up the phone and call your mom. What does she have to say? Have you consulted medical professionals? Discussed the situation with friends? Held internal dialogue while reading an article to yourself online?

Each voice…


Relationships bring pleasure, yet they also take work. We all know this. Human connection adds vibrant color to our long days, warmth to our cold nights, and meaning to our ever-changing seasons.

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What’s less obvious to most is the need for introspective thought. The kind that is so powerful, the newfound knowledge leaves you with no choice but to come to terms with past decisions, and adjust your future behaviors.

This sort of wild, thought-provoking, and self-realizing inner-trip came to me a few months back. It took me by surprise, and completely shook my world. …


Social constructs go into practice as widely-held beliefs, weaving in and out of society’s fabric. Thus, the act of perpetuating a stereotype is often done unconsciously. This article will urge you to review your perception of what it means to be “normal.” In the end, you’ll feel empowered to walk in your truth and add value to any space that you occupy — unapologetically.

Stereotypes are used to project ideas and feelings onto a group of “others”. Consequently, the subjected individuals are stripped of their unique complexities and lived experiences. Humans have the propensity to promote popular opinions to matters…


Here’s what I learned and what you need to know!

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After reading The Introvert Advantage, by Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D., I’ve come to describe myself as an introverted-extrovert. Introverts don’t talk just for the sake of being heard. We tend to keep energy inside, live in our thoughts, and seek quiet space to carefully reflect and recharge. Introverts generate a steady supply of internal stimulation without needing to look far beyond one’s self. Extroverts, on the other hand, rely on external social sources and activities to charge up! This group prefers to avoid feeling under-stimulated, or reaching a forbidden state of boredom.

The two temperaments exist on a spectrum. You…

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